Friday, October 17, 2014

Winning Ways Advice Column by Marge Powers

Stop Settling for Less and Upgrade Your Life!

Welcome to the next ‘New thought of the Week and Upgrade Your Life’ Series.  This 12 week series will give you valuable ‘New Thought’ Information and Advice that will help you learn how to enjoy the Holidays that are fast approaching.  We hope our advice will open you up to a new way of celebrating them.

Ah yes, the Holidays, they’re supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, and as you know they can have a way of turning into a very stressful time.  The holiday season can often bring unwelcome guests, an overwhelming array of demands, parties, shopping, baking, cleaning, socializing and entertaining to name just a few. Or perhaps you may be spending the Holidays alone and are feeling a little lonely or depressed.  But whatever the source of your angst, family dynamics, financing, lack of self-confidence, or painful memories, etc…you are certainly not alone and there ARE solutions.

Therefore, I’ve devised some simple and practical tips and fixes that are included in this 12 week series so you can learn how to minimize the stress that accompanies the holiday celebrations.  You may even end up enjoying them more than you thought you could.  J

Bottom Line:  In writing out this series, I’m simply shedding some light on some common habits that can make all the difference for you during the Holidays.  A great deal of human happiness is due to Intentional Activity.  It is possible for us to significantly increase our happiness simply by altering what we choose to do every day.  And usually much of what we do, we do on autopilot based on your thinking, beliefs, and habits

Try these ideas and suggestions to remind you that the people who want to be happy during the Holidays have incorporated this mindset into their thoughts and behavior the following:

They focus of effectiveness over popularity - #3 Series

Happy people never confuse popularity with effectiveness.  Being popular means you are liked only for a while.  Being effective means you’ve made a difference.  And during the Holidays especially, it is this feeling of knowing you made a difference that really matters in the end.

Happy People say ‘no’ when they need to 

Saying ‘yes’ to everything puts you on the fast track to being miserable.  Feeling like you’re only doing busywork is often the result of saying ‘yes’ too much.  We all have obligations, but a comfortable pace can only be found by properly managing your yeses.  So stop saying ‘yes’ when you want  to say ‘no.’  Sometimes you have to set clear boundaries in order to be happy.

Magic Morsel Tips:   Set aside differences.  Try to accept family members and friends as they are, even if they don’t live up to all of your expectations.  Set aside grievances until a more appropriate time for discussion.  Be understanding if others get upset or distressed when something goes awry.  Chances are they’re feeling the effects of holiday stress and depression.


Marge has over 30 years’ experience as a Master NLP Life Learning Coach.  She has written many books in on personal development, career planning, job searching, and retiring issues. These books may be reviewed or purchased on her website listed below.  Contact her if you would like a free bonus eBook, have questions or interested in a free coaching session.   See contact information below:

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