Friday, November 7, 2014

Winning Ways Advice Column by Marge Powers

Stop Settling for Less and Upgrade Your Life!

Welcome to the next ‘New thought of the Week and Upgrade Your Life’ Series.  This 12 week series will give you valuable ‘New Thought’ Information and Advice that will help you learn how to enjoy the Holidays that are fast approaching.  We hope our advice will open you up to a new way of celebrating them.

Ah yes, the Holidays, they’re supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, and as you know they can have a way of turning into a very stressful time.  The holiday season can often bring unwelcome guests, an overwhelming array of demands, parties, shopping, baking, cleaning, socializing and entertaining to name just a few. Or perhaps you may be spending the Holidays alone and are feeling a little lonely or depressed.  But whatever the source of your angst, family dynamics, financing, lack of self-confidence, or painful memories, etc…you are certainly not alone and there ARE solutions.

Therefore, I’ve devised some simple and practical tips and fixes that are included in this 12 week series so you can learn how to minimize the stress that accompanies the holiday celebrations.  You may even end up enjoying them more than you thought you could.  J

Bottom Line:  In writing out this series, I’m simply shedding some light on some common habits that can make all the difference for you during the Holidays.  A great deal of human happiness is due to Intentional Activity.  It is possible for us to significantly increase our happiness simply by altering what we choose to do every day.  And usually much of what we do, we do on autopilot based on your thinking, beliefs, and habits

Try these ideas and suggestions to remind you that the people who want to be happy during the Holidays have incorporated this mindset into their thoughts and behavior the following:

They see rejection as protection from what’s not meant to be - #6 Series

It’s possible to experience rejection during the Holidays.  That doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough; it means the other person failed to notice what you need or have to offer.  Be careful of your expectations which usually leads to disappointment or hurt feelings.  Instead of taking things personally, take time to build upon your ideas, creating your craft, and indulging deeper into the holiday work that moves you.  Happy people know this and they don’t take rejection personally. 

Happy People focus on the present:

Never let your past dictates who you are today, but let it be a lesson that’s part of who you will become tomorrow.  No regrets.  No looking back in anger.  Just pay attention to what needs to be done at the present moment and slowly move forward.  We have no way of knowing how plans will fall into place, but that’s what makes the Holidays even more exciting.  Happy people know this, and that’s precisely when they make the most of and enjoy the present.

Magic Morsel Tips:   Learn to say No!  Saying yes when you should say no can leave you feeling resentful and overwhelmed.  Friends and colleagues will understand if you can’t participate in every single project or activity.  If it’s not possible to say ‘no’ when try to remove something else from your agenda to make up for the lost time.
Remember that proper preparation prevents poor performance.


Marge has over 30 years’ experience as a Master NLP Life Learning Coach.  She has written many books in on personal development, career planning, job searching, and retiring issues. These books may be reviewed or purchased on her website listed below.  Contact her if you would like a free bonus eBook, have questions or interested in a free coaching session.   See contact information below:

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