Job
Interviewing Secrets You Must Know NOW!
Hi
Marge,
Whenever
I go on an interview, I feel like my tongue is tied in knots, and I don’t feel
confident at all. I know I blow my
anxiety way out of proportion, but I sure would like to turn that all
around. Any tips? Scott Schmitt
Hi
Scott,
Getting
prepared to ‘do the right things’ on an interview, takes practice, many
mistakes, and tons of stress. To get you
started on the right foot here are some secret but obvious tips. These tips below will get their attention,
and have you feel like you may have some semblance of control to make a good
impression. Good luck!
Marge ‘Magic’ Powers
Job Interview
Secret Tips:
Everybody
knows the warning about the ‘limp handshake.’ You were probably advised against
that blunder when you were looking for your first job. God forbid a potential employer should reach
out and wind up holding something that feels like damp earthworms. Here are a couple of job interviewing secrets
that can help you avoid any awkward encounters when you’re at the office:
In
an interview, shaking hands firmly is just one of the things you must do with
your body. Body language makes up 93 per
cent of human communication, so what you do with your body is of massive
importance. And this starts even BEFORE
you walk into the interview.
The Findings:
Harvard
Business School social psychologist Amy Cuddy is an expert on nonverbal
communications. She says one of the most
valuable things you can do in your job search is to understand how important your
body language is and how it impacts those around you, as well as yourself.
Have
you ever watched a cat react to another animal by arching her back and raising
her fur? That’s because she wants to
seem bigger. Animals instinctively know
that by taking up more space, they seem bolder.
Even humans are hard-wired this way.
Cuddy
talks about ‘power poses,” such as putting one’s feet on the desk and leaning
back, arms behind the head. Or standing
with hands on hips, feet apart. But if
you think I’m going to tell you to position yourself this way during an interview,
STOP! You want to look like a confident
person, not like a pompous jerk.
So, don’t do
these:
Crossing
your arms, twiddling your hair, evading making eye contact, and/ or invading
personal space.
Do this instead:
You
can appear much more confident and competent during an interview if you set
your mindset to think, “Fake it ‘till you make it.’ And then bring it up one more notch, and add
‘Fake it until you BECOME
it.” Why? The secret is that your body language
actually changes the way you feel about yourself. So try this before you meet
your interviewer face-to-face.
Studies
show that when you think ‘Fake it until your become it’, you are actually
bathing your brain with the chemicals that make you feel more optimistic, more
assertive and less anxious. So when you say
this phrase to yourself, you’re really not ‘faking’ anything. You’re effecting (anchoring) a change in the
way you are thinking and feeling – which changes dramatically how you are
feeling about yourself.
I
usually tell my clients that before an interview, imagine a time when they felt
terrific about themselves, remember that emotion, and go into the interview
with that positive great feeling. They
tell me that practice actually works!
Two Minutes Can
Make a Difference:
This
chemical change happens instantly. So,
the next time you have an interview, take two minutes alone, and imagine a
‘special’ “I feel terrific about myself feeling”. If you do this I promise you’ll feel more
confident and competent. Imagine that!
In
closing I said there was one secret, but there are actually two: If you want to become more comfortable with
your body language, try Toastmasters International. It is a worldwide organization dedicated to
communication and leadership development.
(One of the first things you’ll learn is how to avoid that limp
handshake!).
Magic Morsel: Why not be the person you’d like to be!
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eMail me your letters, inquiries; Let me
know your opinions, let’s have your suggestions and ask your questions. If you’re ready to feel good about yourself,
then connect now!
Help is here: Contact Marge “Magic” Powers for a free
consultation at 209.785.2042 or marge@discoverwinningways.com.
(Would you please call between 3:00 p.m. and 5:00 p.m.)? Note: If I am with a client, I do not answer the
phone, so please leave a message and I’ll get back to you as soon as
possible. Thanks. ‘Magic’ Powers J
Marge
has written many books in how to improve your lifestyle, career plans, job
search activities and/or retirement issues. These books may be reviewed or
purchased on her website: www.discoverwinningways.com.
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Good thoughts and Best Wishes!
WINNING WAYS
Career
and Master NLP Life Learning Advisor
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