Lost
and Alone
Dear
Marge:
I just want to say that
what you write about is really helping me a lot. For the past few months, I’ve been suffering
from depression. Your words really
inspire me and it makes me realize that there is more to life than being
sad. I feel so lost and alone. I’m currently going through a time in my life
where nothing seems to work, I feel stuck and there is a vast divide between
where I am and where I know I want to be is killing me, but posts like this
give me hope.
Why do people feel this
way? What’s the point of it all? Millions of people in this world, all of them
craving connection and looking for specific experiences and people to satisfy
them, yet inadvertently isolating themselves in the process. Why?
Was the planet put here just to nourish our loneliness? I’d love to hear your wisdom and thoughts on
this. Thank you. Janice
French
Dear
Janice:
It is my dearest hope
to give you something important to think about and leave you with some ideas
that might help you in your current situation.
I have found that it’s good for us to spend time exploring unknowns,
alone. It gives us an opportunity to
discover who we really are and what life all about to us. Sometimes you can be down so far, there’s no
place to go but up. So, try to be a
little easier on yourself, don’t try so hard to ‘figure it all out’ the answers
will come when it’s time. Hopefully these tips will help see you through the
dark times. Good luck, Marge ‘Magic’ Powers
So many of us are
fighting the same exact battle alongside you.
We are all in this together. So
no matter how embarrassed or pathetic you feel about your own situation, know
that there are others out there experiencing the same emotions. When you hear yourself say, “I am all alone;”
It’s just your worried mind trying to sell you a lie. There’s always someone who can relate to
you. Perhaps you can’t immediately talk
to them, but they are out there, and that’s all you need to know right now.
2. Sometimes when you’re lonely, you
need to be alone:
Sometimes you need to
be alone, not to be lonely, but to enjoy a little free time just’ being
yourself and finding your own way. In
other words, the moments you feel lonely are the moments you may most need to
be by yourself. This is one of life’s
cruelest ironies. The truth is;
throughout your life there will be times when the world gets real quiet and the
only thing left is the beat of your own heart.
So you’d better learn the sound of it, otherwise you’ll never understand
what it’s telling you.
3. You
have to be a little lost first to find what you’re looking for:
Not until you are lost
in this world can you begin to find your best path. Realizing you are lost is the first step to
living the life you want. The second
step is leaving the life you don’t want.
Making a big life change is pretty scary. But you know what’s even scarier? Regret.
I can tell you from my
own life experience that I’ve found love, lost it, found it, lost it and then I
found it once again. But each time what
I found was more incredible than the last.
So remember that everyone suffers in life at some point. Everyone feels lost sometimes. The key is
using your experiences to grow. When you
apply what you’re learning to your future choices and actions, you move forward
not backward. You become stronger and
wiser. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it
in the end.
4. It’s all about accepting the
reality of what is:
You cannot find peace
by avoiding life. Life continually spins
with unexpected changes; so instead of avoiding it, take every change and
experience it as a challenge for growth.
Either it will give you what you want or it will teach you what the next
step is. And remember, finding peace in
life does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, no challenges, and
no hard work. It means to be in the
midst of those things while remaining calm in your heart.
Honestly, don’t you
think that life is too short to spend at war with yourself. The biggest disappointments in our lives are
often the result of misplaced expectations.
Heed this: letting go of needless expectations is your first step to
happiness. Come from a mindset of peace
and acceptance, and I promise that you can deal with almost anything and grow
beyond it.
5. In
every situation, YOU choose your attitude:
Be determined to be
positive. Understand that the greater
part of your misery or unhappiness is determined not by your circumstances, but
by your attitude. A happy person is not
a person who’s always in a good situation, but rather a person who always has a
good attitude in every situation. So
smile at those who often try to begrudge or hurt you; show them what’s missing
in their life and what they can’t take away from you. Doing so doesn’t mean forgetting or giving
in, it means you choose happiness over hurt.
6. Being
alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean you are
alone.
The trouble is not
always in being alone; it’s being lonely in the presence of others. One can be lonely in the midst of a crowd.
Wouldn’t you agree? So keep this in mind
and choose your relationships wisely.
It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company. And when you do decide to come back for
someone, do so because you’re truly better off with this person. Don’t do it just for the sake of not being
along.
7.
Everyone you care about does NOT need to
support your decisions.
Friends and family
won’t always support your goals, but you must pursue goals anyway. Make sure you follow your intuition. That means doing what feels right to YOU,
even if it doesn’t look or sound right to others. Only time will tell, but your human instincts
are rarely wrong. Even if things don’t
turn out as you anticipated, at least you won’t have to spend the rest of your
life wondering what could have been. So
don’t worry about what everyone else thinks; just keep living and speaking your
truth.
8. The best you can do changes from
day to day:
Always do your
best. And realize that ‘your best’ is
going to change repeatedly. Under any
circumstance, simply do your best in the present moment and you will avoid
self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
It’s only when you add the battles of yesterday and tomorrow, that life
gets overwhelmingly complicated. It’s
necessary therefore, to let yourself live just one day at a time – just today –
just right here, right now. And do the
best you can in it.
So, in closing what
helps you stay positive when you feel lost and alone? What’s something encouraging to you keeping
in mind when you’re up against lots of uncertainty?
Magic Morsel:
There are only two ways to live your life: Nothing is a miracle. 2.
Everything is a Miracle. Choose!
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