Overcoming Rejection
Dear Magic:
I’m feeling really down in the dumps right
now. Recently I was fired from my job,
and my boyfriend tells me he wants to break up after two years of us being in a
relationship. I’m feeling really
rejected. I’ve been told to count my
blessings, but I sure would like to know the secret to handling rejection and
picking the right people and jobs for me.
I keep making stupid mistakes and don’t know how to get past all
this. Do you have any advice for
me? Olive Jennings
Dear Olive:
Yeah, I know it’s no fun feeling
rejection and not knowing how to get back on track. I have had these moments myself from time to
time, and some of my clients have shared that sometimes they don’t feel they
have a lot to be thankful about. So,
you’re not alone in this rejection business.
Our life can sure hit some major road blocks. One client of mine was told by his fiancé
that the wedding was “off” and the engagement was broken. Another man told me that his job search
wasn’t going very well. And a woman recently
emailed telling me that she felt beaten up from countless rejections in her new
sales position. They felt alone but I
assured them they weren’t, we’re all in the same boat, and sometimes it seems
like we’re sinking fast. But, as we all
we know from our own experiences, each of us will face rejection on the road to
success as we’re looking for the right answers to get back control and
empowerment. Here are a few suggestions that
I have found have helped me and my clients discover the right tools to help us
all move forward:
1. Get the Right People on Your
Bus – Some people are going to
get on your bus and some people won’t.
That’s ok. The people that get on
are supposed to get on. The people that
don’t are meant to get on another bus.
Don’t take it personal. Just keep
on driving and trying to get the right people on your bus.
2. Keep the Bus Rolling – As you drive along in life just keep picking
up people you only feel comfortable with and who want to get on your bus. Eventually you’ll have a filled – standing
room only – bus.
3. Post a Sign saying, “No
Energy Vampires allowed” - sometimes you may have to ask someone to get off
your bus.
4. Stay Focused – Don’t
waste your energy thinking about those who didn’t get on your bus. If you waste your energy on them this means
you’ll have less fuel to pick up the people who want to get on.
5. Remember, It’s a Journey
– During your ride, you will have many people get on and many get off. Again, don’t take this personal. The people who get off may have to get on
another bus, or perhaps they will make room for someone special who is supposed
to get on.
6. You Have the Best View –
Many people won’t be able to see what you see.
You have the vision for where you are going while others are in the back
seat. Don’t let the back seat drivers
get you down.
7. Take a Chance – Ask
people if they want to get on your bus.
The worst they can say is no. If
you don’t ask people they won’t know enough to get on. The more people you pick up along the way the
more energy you will create during your ride.
8. Live Your Purpose – Drive
at your own speed and don’t compare your success to others. Be inner directed, not outer directed. You are in charge and that is where your
freedom lies.
9.Have Confidence – Remember your positive energy must be greater
than anyone’s negativity. Your certainty
must be greater than their doubt.
Note: The above tools should help you keep control
of your life when you get in a blue funk.
Magic Morsel: If it
ain’t working, change the path.
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